Always Consider Your Partner Kinetic Attraction as a Gift. Chances are you valued your partner when you first met. I certainly believe that your partner is a gift to be treasured. Therefore, it may take a little more effort for you to see the beauty over the flaws as your relationship develops, especially since no one is perfect. Commitment means to give love, respect, honor, value, kindness, patience, and encouragement at all times. Such commitment is protecting the heart of the one your love and to encourage them to respond in the same manner.Seek Christian Marriage Counseling. If you want to spend your life together, perhaps it is worth considering counseling prior to marriage instead of latter. I strongly believe that couples who invest time in learning how to manage their relationship may be in a better position to save it before any damage can take effect. Counseling can help you both address common issues many couples are challenged by throughout their relationships, such as money, sex, communication, future planning, and so forth. Counseling can also help you take a critical look at yourself to be a better person in the relationship.